About Me

I am a 56 year old writer, Law Clerk, and Personal Trainer who first entered a gym at the age of 48. I had no previous athletic experience whatsoever. In fact, when I was a child my mother wrote notes to physical education teachers asking that I be excused from class, as she had been told by physicians that I would never be able to participate in athletic activities. I was born with a congenital hip dislocation and all of my joints are hyper-mobile, making me so flexible that I am susceptible to muscle injury (since the muscles get little help from the joints). I literally “fall out” of my joints when lifting heavy. I also have Asperger’s Syndrome, a form of autism, so just being in a physical education class (or gym) can be completely overwhelming for me.

I began working with a trainer in December 2006 when I signed my son up for a gym membership. I weighed 110 pounds at 5’7″, so weight loss was obviously not my goal. I wanted to become stronger.

My first trainer focused on whole body workouts once per week involving compound exercises (functional training). Eventually, despite the fact that I was terrified of being in the gym alone, I started working out by myself as well, first on machines, and eventually with free weights. For a while, I was unable to even move off the treadmill when alone in the gym. Eventually, my trainer suggested that I try moving to only one machine instead of the several he had at first prescribed. And, after mastering the move to one machine, I was able over time to try more.

I subsequently trained with a female trainer who focused on building muscle mass (German Volume Training), as well as on increasing strength. It was during this time that I began reading everything I could find about lifting.

I worked out on my own from January to May 2009 when I asked another trainer if he was available to train me. I wanted to work on my deadlift, my favourite lift.

Then everything started to change.

By the fall of 2009, much to my surprise, I had succeeded in learning how to perform the technically complex, physically and mentally challenging Olympic lift called the Clean & Jerk. Eventually, I was able to put at least 75 pounds over my head, lifted from the floor, to my shoulders, and then “jerked” overhead. I “cleaned” 85 pounds. My deadlift improved to 155 pounds for five repetitions. I lifted 160 pounds for one rep. My trainer told me that I had lifted more in my deadlift than any of his other female clients – and I weighed only 116 pounds at the time.

“You are a strength athlete. You can move big weight long distances, quickly.”  – Trainer #3

I was very quickly able to do front squats with 95 pounds for five reps. My back squat reached 105 pounds, although we focused on the front squat. I had the strength to do split squats for six repetitions while holding an Olympic bar overhead. I gained noticeable upper and lower body muscle mass, along with the surprising strength. My weight went up to 121 pounds, although my clothing went down a size (size 0 pants) due to a 6.7% reduction in body fat. (Yes, even thin people have body fat.)

Unfortunately, I was having so much fun and making so much progress in the gym that I ignored a lingering pain in my right shoulder for several months, assuming it was just “stiffness”. Eventually, the pain started radiating down my arm and I could not sleep at night. Finally, I could no longer hold the bar on my back, nor could I put any weight overhead. I couldn’t even reach up for something in the corner store without a bolt of pain stopping me in my tracks. My olympic style lifting and my training came to an end, but I kept working out in the hopes of reuniting with my trainer/coach.

Physiotherapy lasted for a surprising eight months. There was no sign of a tear or any other serious injury, I had full range of motion in my arm, but the pain was never-ending. One step forward was followed by two steps back, over and over again. Even prescription medication did not stop the pain. Eventually, an ultrasound showed chronic inflammation, bursitis, and osteoarthritis.

I began training with a champion powerlifter at a gym where I was receiving physiotherapy and massage therapy. My new trainer worked closely with my treatment providers, and taught me how to do rehab strengthening exercises. He had been injured himself and understood what being sidelined felt like. Nevertheless, this trainer insisted on holding me back, frustrating me, for my own good. And it worked.

Soon after the strengthening phase of my treatment began, I started experiencing less pain. Eventually, the pain was gone.

The next phase of my training was to try to learn how to overcome the fear of re-injury. I had to start building myself up from what felt like square one. I had two good months and was starting to feel my confidence returning when a new pain emerged – this time in my right hip. Although I made the same mistake of ignoring the pain for too long, it was eventually  diagnosed by a sports medicine physician as Piriformis Syndrome. My training took another hit.

It took over six months (and several weeks of physiotherapy) to stop the painful sciatica which required medication (something I do not like to take) three times per day to control. But I won that battle, as well. I am currently pain-free and have been given the go-ahead from my physicians to resume lifting, as the benefits far outweigh the risks.

I am now looking forward to ramping up my training, getting the weights back up, and then progressing further.

The best thing about all these set-backs: I know my own body. I know what it needs and what it doesn’t need. I know what I must do, as well as what I like to do. I am now the one in charge.

That said, I am grateful to all of my trainers, especially the last one who “held me back” for my own good, and to my amazing detail-oriented physiotherapist for his hard work and supreme patience. Also, my massage therapist has made the healing blood go where it needed to go. She has done wonders.

Finally, my son, Will, has stood quietly by my side, both in the gym and at home. He has heard me rant in anger and witnessed my sorrow when it seemed to me that I would not be able to lift again. And now he is encouraging me to forge onward. Thank you, Will.

I don’t believe in being “positive” all the time. I believe in experiencing fully the whole range of emotions available to us as human beings, including anger and grief. These feelings teach us valuable lessons. They allow us to learn from our mistakes, to imagine what others must be experiencing, and to be humble. Life is a process of learning and feelings are our guides.

However, I have developed a motto which is “feel bad for 30 seconds and then work twice as hard”.

My other motto is “never quit”.

Wish me luck!

UPDATE: After working out on my own for nearly three years now, with short-term help from several first class trainers, I have committed to long-term training with a new trainer. To meet my new trainer, click here. – BF June 23, 2013

P.S. As well as being a devoted gym rat, I work full-time as a Law Clerk for a Founding Partner and his team in an incredibly busy law firm. I have been a single mother for 25 years. I earned a B.A. from Queen’s University (Political Science) and a Master of Fine Arts in Theatre (Directing) from the University of British Columbia. I am a playwright and have had two plays produced, one of them twice. I am certified as a Personal Trainer.


  1. John McFarland

    Awesome, Awesome post. I can relate to the adversity you had to overcome. Can I share this on my blog?

  2. This is very good. Continued success and health!

    • bethfrench10

      Thank you! I’m doing really well now. My strength is increasing – slowly – with the help of a great treatment team. The key for me is doing everything I can to support hyper-mobile joints – not usually an issue for older athletes!

  3. Lurena

    I love this! So glad you found a positive way to empower yourself. Stay strong. Stay true to yourself. You’re a blessing.

  4. Glad to meet you in Twitterville, Beth, which led me to your blog. You have an incredible story and I think you’ll be an inspiration for many! I look forward to hearing about your adventures in strength and wellness!

  5. I just found your blog and I love it; I think your story is amazing. Looking forward to reading more from you, keep working hard!!

    • Thanks! I enjoyed your blog too. Love the post about “butts” not being special. I’m working on developing strength in my glutes so I can lift heavy for life! Keep up the great work!

  6. heresmyinsidevoice

    I stumbled upon your blog when I decided to type in “aspergers and bodybuilding” into Google, and I am so glad I did. I am 32 and a single mom with AS. I have just begun my own journey into bodybuilding and so far I am loving it. Your story is inspiring and I’m going to continue to follow your progress. Thank you for sharing your story.

    • Thank you for taking the time to write a comment. Your feedback means a great deal to me. I am very happy for you that you discovered bodybuilding. I wish you much success with your journey and much strength as a single mom, as well. Thanks again.

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